I Love NY

Okay all sarcasm aside, in the Spring, Fall and MOST of the Summer New York is AMAZING. The lake is where you will find Big Momma with Lil Momma running around on the play ground or swimming in said lake. But during the winter. BRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! It's 13 degrees at this time and the reports coming in is that the temperature is going to not only drop but with the next two days there's going to be snow AND freezing rain.
Um Mother Nature, like snow isn't enough? You have to put freezing rain on top of that? Wtf? sheesh!
Okay off the weather. Just a reminder to all you wonderful women out there who have landed your Prince Charming. He's not psychic. My cousin's soon to be wife just messaged me saying "HELP! He's not giving me his input on the Wedding plans." "Did you ask him for help with the Wedding plans?" And she gave me this round about vague answer which meant no or she gave HIM a round about vague help me with the Wedding plans. People, people! Listen up! Men OR Women, 9 times out of 10 your spouse is NOT Psychic. Therefore they are not reading your mind and do not know you would like help in the Wedding plans, or help figuring out where to go for the weekend getaway or whatever. Always be honest with your partner, they love you for a reason, guessing that your honesty is part of it. :) Worse comes to worse they are honest back and say that they don't want to and then that leads to why. Maybe they are uncomfortable or afraid they will mess something up. Either way you wont know until you say something. Give them the same as you would want in return. :)

Holy Freezing Cold Batman!

Wow. The 8 block walk in to work today was BRUTAL for Big Momma. -9 is never a nice temperature to be walking in. My nose froze shut, legs are STILL frozen. Kids all over the county are on a delay or schools are closed because it's so cold. Even before the windchill kicks in. It's days like this that make Big Momma want to move somewhere nice and warm. Like Jamaica, or Tahiti. :) LOL. It's just too much.
Lil Momma had a nice fun filled weekend. Made it through her lessons and then off to her Grandparents house. We pull in the driveway and it's plowed for the first time all winter. :) So I have to give a nice shout out to whomever it was that was kind enough to plow their driveway. You left no note, did a great job and didn't get paid. Thank you for doing this kindness for my parents. Not many people do nice things without being asked to any more!
Lil Momma is getting so excited for her birthday party at Chuck E Cheese this year. And for the family trip to Disney in October. This is going to be a year of many many blessings. I want to do as many amazing things with her as I can for as long as I can. Make each memory special and just as good as the next. And I wont lie, I think I'm more excited about Disney thne she is! LOL.
Stay warm ya'll. Bundle up and let your car warm up those extra fifteen minutes today. And please please be safe.

ATTETION: A creeper is on the loose in Lansing!!!!!!!

http://www.theithacajournal.com/

Please keep your eyes out for this man. Let's keep our communities safe!!!!!!!!

What Is The World Coming To?

Okay so Big Momma is in a snit today. I'm hearing all these things in the news and I'm like I cant even beleive that this is up for discussion!!!!!!!
First of all let's talk about this single mother who won the Mega Millions and now has to share it with her wife beating ex. I get that they are separated and not legally divorced. But at the same time he is NOT paying child support and she has pressed charges for abuse. So PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE explain to me why this MF deserves one cent of her good fortune? She's taking care of those two children on her own because this SOB beat her and went against his vows. And now all of a sudden he's allowed to profit off this and come back in her life? NO, I think not. Holly girl, FIGHT THIS! I'm sure you would have the support of millions of Americans behind you.
Another thing that I read was that a Nebraska law maker is trying to pass a law that allows school administrators, teachers and security staff to carry concealed handguns in schools. Seriously? They should be counting their lucky stars that Big Momma is just a blogger with a little voice. Because this is the craziest idea I have ever heard. Just some questions for you Mr. Law Maker, What happens if the children get a hold of those guns? Because we all know accidents happen. Or if a teacher goes crazy and shoots up the school? Or a teacher, which has been known to happen on HOW MANY OCCASIONS, uses excessive force and oh I don't know PULLS THAT GUN AND SHOOTS A KID! Come on! Kids aren't dumb. They can get to these things. On your person or not. They can get in child proof medical bottles, in little gun safes, all kinds of things. Please use your head. This is a horrible idea. A school is not a war zone. If you are having that many problems in your schools then it's time to look at the staff and the structure that you have going on in that school zone. If you have issues with certain students find out why! Are they bored? To far behind? Are they having issues at home? Do your damn job don't turn our schools into a place that I wouldn't even want to walk into.
Seriously, people, WTF is wrong with you?

Lil Momma's Pre School Photo From 2009.

Nice Busy Weekend

Big Momma is in desperate need of a time out. lol
I was going going going all weekend. Lil Momma had her Dance and Swim Lessons. And then I rushed her to her Grandparents to spend the night. I then went to my BFFF's house to throw her baby shower, which thankfully was a great success. Then I went home to crash.
Sunday Big Momma, better late then NEVER, took down the Christmas Tree, went and got Lil Momma and spent some time with my parents. Then went home to do some laundry just before bed time. Sheesh. :) I was on my toes.
And I have to say with a nice pat on my back. I successfully got Lil Momma's 5th birthday planned for Chuckie E Cheese. She's excited and ready to go. LOL.
I think tonight it's going to be a breakfast for dinner night and we are gonna just relax. And be calm. And not rush or do anything. That sounds just perfect.

Second One For Today :)

http://www.slate.com/id/2281138/?gt1=38001

Give this a read, the article has some interesting test studies and results on it.

Darwin's Rape Whistle
Have women evolved to protect themselves from sexual assault?
By Jesse Bering

This About Sum's It Up

Everything I did in my life that was worthwhile I caught Hell for.
- Earl Warren

Isn't that the god's honest truth :) And if I might add, words to live by.
There are many things in this live that are worth trying that you could "catch hell for". Example: eating sweeties before breakfast, skipping school, standing up for what you beleive in (even if it means telling your parents they are wrong) and on and on.
Big Momma is a firm believer that some rules are just meant to be broken. When Lil Momma asks me for a treat before we head out the door and I drop her off at school. I don't always say no. Sometimes I let her have a little chocolate or two. She's still going to eat a healthy breakfast at school for one and for two I don't have to deal with her sugar rush. ;) And who said that chocolate is not meant for breakfast? Who exactly made that rule?
On occasion is it okay to skip school and just spend a day with your family? On a day that you don't have to turn in a major paper or have a huge test. Why not? Adults take mental health days all the time. Big Momma understands that Lil Momma would need them too. She's already asking for days to stay home with Mommy and cuddle all day :) Wish we could take more of those days. They are to be cherished and taken while you can. Because soon enough they will not be happening any more.
Live for the moment people. Even in that means breaking some rules and taking some Hell. It's worth it. ;)

This and That

Big Momma is making some adjustments over the next few days to the page. May change the lay out, the colors, add pictures who knows.
But always feel free to leave your comments and YOUR opinions. I might not agree with them but they are free to be expressed here any way you like.
And please add your self as a follower. I like to see who's reading me. Other then my close circle of friends. lol
The snow is coming in large amounts lately and that has me in a funk. I need my sunshine. My winter blahs is kicking in. That and the fact that Lil Momma is going to be Five and I, Big Momma, (large sigh all dramatic like) I am going to be the big 3-0. I have no desire to want to leave my 20's behind. I enjoyed them. And I have a number of friends who inform me that it only get's better. I feel right now, at the cusp of being (gasp) 30, that they are liars. Can't I be 29 for just a while longer?????? What if I promise to not complain if I get like......four extra months of 29? Yeah didn't think so. (hmpf) Well if that's the case then I guess I'm just going to have to do something amazing and fabulous for my big 30. Details to come soon! ;)

Lil Momma's Crush

Lil Momma had a play date with a very nice young man in her Pre K class yesterday. His Mom and I took the kids to the mall to get some dinner then we went to the bouncy house in the mall and let them work out some energy. While there Lil Momma took the opportunity to tell him that he's handsome. To which he replied that he was and I quote from the mouth of the four year old "I'm not handsome I'm sexy!" as he blushes and smiles coyly at her.
Where or where do kids come up with things like this? After laughing hysterically at the kids we shooed them to go and continue to play trying not to make a big deal about either of them know what Sexy is.
After our time is done we walk to a nice little store to get some little trinkets for Lil Momma. We treated our beau to the bouncy house so he was going to get her something nice. The young couple walked hand in hand into the store to pick out something. It was so cute and so sad at the same time.
My little girl already with her first crush. Big Momma is so not ready for that. I just had her didn't I? Wasn't I just in labor at the hospital screaming my head off in pain?
Apparently not. :)

Life

The reality of life is it's to short. Big Momma knew a young man that passed yesterday with another person in a car accident. While choice that were made that may not have always been the best in his life or in anyones life. They are still choices that define us and make us the people that we are. They are the reasons that other's love us and cherish us, or don't. But in any event it's the fact of how quickly that can be taken away. So I wanted to take this moment to say hug the person next to you. Tell you child 100 extra times today how much you love them. Call a friend that you always mean to call but say "Oh I'm to busy but she/he know's I'm thinking about them. They know how crazy my life is. I'll call them later." Even send them that facebook message and just say Hi. It doesn't take much.
So to you my friends that read, and whomever happens across my blog;
HI.And thanks for reading. It means a lot. And you mean a lot. xoxoxoxo

Busy Weekend But Still Time for ME!!!!!

Looking forward to the weekend ahead. Lil Momma has Dance class, then swim class. She's having a friend over and then she's going to her grandparents so Big Momma can have some "Big Momma Time".
I'm very lucky in the fact that I have my supportive family so close to take her once a week so I'm able to have time to myself. I don't know if I would be sane if I didn't have time to just sit and listen to myself breathe. Not have to worry about getting to school on time, going to work on time. What lesson does she have? Getting her dinner fixed. LOL there's always and forever something.
During Big Momma Time I just be. If I want to read, I read. If I want to watch a scary movie, I watch it. Or if I want to do nothing at all but sit there and stare at the walls, that's what I will do. I used to use this time to go out and have a drink with my friends and go dancing. But then that wasn't really time for me. And no offense to my wonderful, amazing and dear friends, but this is time for ME, to do ME things. Not to listen to you vent or try to meet a man. I do that every other day of the week. And I love it and I love them. But this is time to listen to what I need. As apposed to what everyone else needs from me.
Everyone needs this time to just center themselves and get back on their even plane.
So take some You Time this weekend, and let me know how it works out for you! :)

Karma

I'm a huge fan of Do unto others as you would have done to you and If you do harm to someone, harm will come back to you three fold
But sometimes I feel Ms. Karma takes her sweet old time. Am I alone in this?
Example: I have a four year old that doesn't get to see her SD and he runs around without paying his child support, wearing new clothes and new kicks. How does that happen? And why doesn't Karma kick in?
Another Example: Big Momma's close personal friend has some major family issues. Like DEEP stuff. Family going to court telling judge she's Dead kinda stuff. Yet this has been going on for years and Karma hasn't kicked in there either.
Now Big Momma has faith. She has faith in a many of things. Most of all in the Universe making the wrongs right. Big Momma knows that the Mother Goddess will not let these injustices go on for long.
But in the mean time what do you do? What do you say? How do you keep your head up?
Here's Big Momma's new philosophy.
Trust: Have trust in yourself to be strong enough to not only get through it. But to come out on the other side better, and wiser.
Breathe: Instead of lashing out or jumping in your car to go and take care of the events yourself. Take a moment and breathe. Reflect on what Karma would do back. And realize that it's just not worth it. Two words here; Three Fold. Is going with your gut reaction worth the THREE things that will happen in you in return? No me thinks not.
Friends: There is a reason that you are blessed with friends. Just as much as you listen to their problems they are there to listen to yours. So don't be afraid to tell them what is going on so you can get some out side observances.
Big Momma has a feeling that like Karma, they will let you to just let fate take care of it.

It's Just An Opinion

Big Momma has been following some of the news, not something I do often, and I'm as usual annoyed.
I read this cold morning in our local rag, that a aircraft carrier Captain has lost his job over video's that he made a couple years back. In said video his intention is to boost the moral of his men on his Naval ship with some joking videos. The videos have some not so kind language about homosexuals, women on women action, masturbation, and just basic......well dumb men stuff. Other crew men AND women participated in the making of these videos, which are now under the focus of the how world.
Now, I love the gays. I have many many friends that are gay. And as a women I, as many other women, don't appreciate being exploited in any way. With that said, the Captain was reported to have said that he has received complaints about these videos for years. So why are we JUST now doing something about it? Isn't this a little like finding out your daughter slipped out the bedroom window 15 years after she did it and then trying to put your 30 year old over your knee and spanking her? Something should have been done then. Because now it's showing that we are willing to take a stand, for women and for gays, just years later. We we are supposed to be some country that is leading the world by example, what kind of example does that set? Let them get away with it till they get caught? Come on people! Get with it! This is the kind of thing that needs to be addressed right away. Why wasn't it? Why did it slip through whatever loophole till now? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr THIS is why Big Momma doesn't read the news.
And please feel free to comment all you would like. And yes, I mean you. I know you are reading this and you have loads of your own opinions. (He knows who he is.)
Still no response from the BM (NO not that kind of BM, Baby Momma's Silly). And thankfully Lil Momma has not said anything more about wanting more information about her siblings. I haven't given up total faith. Because when I do then I feel I may be giving up on the fact that people care about the future of their children. So one day at a time. While she is kissing the photo of her SD goodnight every night. I keep reminding myself that no matter what. You cant make someone be something they can't or won't be. You just be the best at what you can be. And hope that is enough.

Being the Bigger Person

Lil Momma is changing as she grows. As do all kids. And knowing that she has siblings out there (from her SD), has her asking questions. So this morning Big Momma sucked it up and sent some messages. Reaching out on Lil Momma's behalf and saying that she wants to play, and meet her siblings.
Her donor got around so there were two different messages. One to a woman that we have gotten together before with. With Lil Momma's little sister. And the other to the mother of her older sister and brother.
Now Big Momma plays the waiting game to see if I get a response. To be honest this was one of the hardest things I have done in a while. For different reason from the past and for clear reasons none of us get along. Although two of us try very hard for the sake of our daughters, I don't know how the other mother is going to react. So this should be interesting.
I'm willing to do what needs to be done for the sake of my daughter. And if that means sitting in a room with someone that I know has ill will towards me then so be it. Big Momma doesn't care. As long as there are no words for Lil Momma to hear. The children can have a very good relationship. And as siblings they should.
So here's to letting bygones be bygones and to families getting together. And to Big Momma staying the bigger person and not having to hurt anyone's feelings with the truth. ;)

2011

Well what a way to ring in the New Year. With Lil Momma throwing a tantrum and throwing her boots at me screaming about how much she hates me, and she's only four! Little does she know as she get's old Big Momma is just gonna get worse and worse. I'm not going to let my child think it's okay for her to give something to another kid and then decide later she wants it back. Growing up in my hood that was called "Indian Giving" (and I AM part Native American) but whatever you want to call that, it's not right. So ensued the boot throwing and the crying and the screaming in front of my friends making me look like a moron. So Big Momma did the only thing she could. I packed up my daughter, without her boots on, threw her little screaming, kicking, crying, four year old butt in the car and buckled her in. Turned up the radio so I could drown her out and drove home.
Happy New Year. LOL